How often do we need the approval of others. Sometimes, for this we have to pay quite a high price: we become spineless people and it becomes difficult to understand what we want actually.
When our happiness begins to depend on other people, you need to stop and think about that is our life, where we are going and where we would like to move. Maybe the time has come to begin to love yourself more?
If you can not look at yourself objectively and accept yourself for what you are, if you notice that transform into another person, then you love yourself enough.
You have committed a grave error in transferring control of his life in the hands of others. Most likely, you feel lost.
Psychologists spoke about the signs that you are not like themselves. If so, then you need to slow down and start to correct the situation.
It is possible that some of the described below will seem very familiar. Maybe you'll see something related to you only in one or in several points.
1. Do you feel free, being himself?
The desire to meet the expectations of other highly exhausting. Perhaps that will seem obvious, but it's true - a man much easier to be yourself than trying to become someone who does not really exist.
If you are in doubt about whether or not you feel free as ourselves, with all its pluses and minuses, it's time to look at his life and deeds.
Do you spend too much time around other people? Trying to avoid loneliness? Are you comfortable to be alone with him?
If so, then maybe you find it difficult to accept yourself as you are. And it's easier not to think about it when you are in the company.
It is possible that you allow others to influence his personality, because of what you are changing. So you feel bad, when there's nobody there.
The time has come to change your life and restore your real, true self.
2. Do not hesitate to say what you think
Sometimes if you feel discomfort during a call, or fear to express their thoughts, because they do not coincide with the opinions of others?
If you are familiar with this situation, it means that you strive to please others, even if because of this you have to give up their views and to hide their true thoughts.
If you do not know how to firmly declare their, you will remain unheard. People will continue to ignore your judgment, without taking it into account. Do not be afraid to be different and have a point of view different from the assumptions of others. Perhaps you have too low self-esteem. It is time to seriously approach this issue.
Your opinion is equally important and valuable than the opinion of others. Sometimes you think that in such a situation, there is nothing dangerous, that's nothing. This is not true! Talk about what you think, express their opinion and be heard. Let you count. Your opinion is really important.
3. You are too self-critical
Perhaps your self-criticism had gone too far, and because of this you are driving themselves in a framework that does not allow you to move forward and develop. You are punishing yourself for things that did not meet your expectations. Do not forget that mistakes are serving us life experience and learn a lot. Thanks to them, we are moving forward.
Do not criticize yourself too seriously, try to appreciate the achievements, even if it is to be small and insignificant achievements. Rejoice in it, even if you think it does not matter.
If you are able to see the cause for rejoicing in small achievements, then you can be congratulated - you become to love yourself more.
4. You no longer take care of themselves
Each of us wants to live in harmony with your own body. If this harmony is disturbed, then we are doing something wrong. You are no longer taking care of yourself, pay attention to their dress and appearance, to eat properly? It is time for change!
Love yourself! Be healthy and take care of their appearance for the sake of themselves and not for others. First of all it is necessary for you! If you do not do this, nobody will do it for you to. You're making a big mistake if you are trying to shift responsibility onto the shoulders of others.
Now is the time to love yourself more and more attentive care for themselves.
5. it is difficult to motivate yourself
Lack of motivation is practically nullifies the chances of success of any undertaking. If you do not believe in themselves, underestimate their strength and you do not have enough optimism, it is unlikely you will be able to achieve the desired.
You may make mistakes, but you do not have a close enough support. Do not give up, believe in themselves and follow their dreams.
Do not allow others to shoot down itself from the intended path, be true to your desires.
6. You do not have enough confidence
Trust yourself. Self-confidence is just as important as the motivation that we talked about earlier. Without it, it is impossible to move forward. Maybe you have lost confidence in their abilities? Do you think that you will not succeed? Are you able to appreciate each small success?
If you love yourself enough, you will trust yourself and do not allow others to knock yourself out of the rut. You will be able to achieve the desired, to learn from their mistakes.
7. You lack sincerity in relations with others
It is possible that for some reason you find it difficult to be open with others. Perhaps the cause is fear that prevents you show people your true face.
So you are trying to protect themselves, although this tactic does not go in our favor. Ultimately, it weakens us.
If you find it difficult to open up to others, if you do not love yourself fully, you will never be able to feel what it means to be truly loved. You can never fully trust the other person.
Because of this you will be sad, you will feel that you are not worthy of love. This is very misleading, because you are worthy of love no less than others.
First and foremost, you are worthy of love for ourselves.
Sometimes we can be difficult to regain confidence in their strength. Maybe you think you are unworthy of true love. And therefore prefer to injure yourself. If so, then you are wrong. The time has come to solve this problem.
Do not forget that at stake is your life, feelings, emotions and dreams. Appreciate your life, you love yourself as you are.