How to hear what says

From the perspective of psychosomatic illnesses are beyond our secret desires, fears and conflicts, repressed in the unconscious. Sometimes only work with a therapist helps you understand where have constant colds, or pain in the heart.

"My throat hurts from stress, myopia suggests fear of the future, and pimples appear because of disagreement with him or subconscious fear of man" - is only a few explanations that can be found, if you type in a search engine the word "psychosomatic".

In the nineteenth century, when science Psychosomatics just appeared, such explanations are in order. Today, experts consider their prejudices. "There is no point in talking to the patient, that he had a sore back, because he was too much on himself shouldered - says psychotherapist François Moreau. - This is a caricature of psychosomatics, the therapist attempts to treat the symptom in its sole discretion, without any analysis. "

So, the cause of our illness is not negative emotions. But what then? From the perspective of psychosomatic well manifest themselves internal conflicts, have not received "role" on the stage of mental life. "It turns out that my body can say, but it tells me things I do not understand - that they feel patients with psychosomatic diseases," - explains François Moreau.

If the conflict is too narrow mentality pushes it into the unconscious. But displace enough - you need to keep it there. It takes a lot of effort. If to this is added the state of stress, the mind has to fight on two fronts. At some point, it can give slack.

"All of us happens to fall on a cold, spending a few days in bed at a time when we are tired or when we are waiting for the complex and unpleasant case. It is the most banal example somatization "- explains Beatrice Lefrancois, analyst Parisian center named after Pierre Marty Psychosomatics.

We may blame themselves for what is easily dressed before, exclaiming: "How did it all the wrong time!", But on an unconscious level, we get what we lack.

The ability to not have to go on unloved work, attention to a partner, which in the evening is not detached from the TV, and parents, we rarely see - all disease can we ensure, though not for long.

It also happens: there are no symptoms, but a man endlessly complains about pain and malaise. Doctors shrug: tests are normal, no abnormalities and deviations. "Medicine does not find anything, but it is" nothing "so interested in psychosomatics" - explains François Moreau. What happens to these patients really?

"I remember one of my patient, a university professor who retired and lost everything, - says Beatrice Lefrancois. - Relationships with colleagues went wrong, her husband left her for another woman, she was left completely alone. She no longer had any student, no work, and at this moment she became a hypochondriac. "

There are some people who seem to have everything, but they are still in panic are afraid of drafts, long considered the skin in search of moles, running the clinic, if the ill finger. The explanation for this is psychosomatic in a relationship with the baby's first object of love - with his mother. If the mother is cold, it does not answer the needs of the child, in the future it may become a hypochondriac, as if searching for the cause of this attitude in his body.

"Instead of send your love and energy to the work of her husband, a child, or some kind of hobby, hypochondriac directs all the energy on himself, often in a certain part of his body, which he considers the patient" - explains Beatrice Lefrancois.

Hypochondriac not pretending - he really feels bad, but does not understand why. It is useless to heal it with antibiotics or, conversely, to shout at him: "That's enough to invent stupidity! Take longer herself. " It is important that he turned for help to a specialist who cumeet hear his true complaint and will help to understand what was happening to him.

But sometimes due to psychological problems in humans develop serious diseases that threaten his life. "We can get sick from the unconscious feelings of guilt or because he could not come to terms with the loss of a loved one," - says Beatrice Lefrancois.

This is what happened with her patient, Rene, who after the death of the parents began with heart problems. He talked about it as if he was waiting for that one day will go to the doctor's office and he says to him all over. Rene did not talk about death directly, but often come back to the fact that he sees no future for himself. Every day he came to the apartment of parents under the pretext of repairs, but would sit there for hours with nothing to do as in the mausoleum.

Little Rene believed that if he did not want his parents, so he did not have to live
It turned out that Renee was unplanned and even unwanted child. He accidentally found out about it in childhood. Little Rene believed that if he did not want his parents, then he is not supposed to live. This discovery was too heavy, and including the protection of the psyche, pushing it into the unconscious. The death of the parents was a shock: Rene psyche has not coped with the stress and displacement of the conflict moved into the body. It took a long time to realize this, Rene. But in the course of therapy, the symptoms are gone.

"It is important to identify the critical point in the life of the patient, from which originates the disease - explains François Moreau. - Then we can understand why the disease appeared just now, not a year or five years ago. "

Analyzing step by step together with the therapist the story of her life, the patient can understand the meaning of his illness - and this is the first step to recovery.