How to avoid fights during the holidays

Holidays we associate with happiness and family idyll. But often it is these days accounts for most fights. Why is this happening?

"In every family there are conflicts, and all different: some quickly come to a decision and make peace, others bring the dispute to the passions and long fade. Long-term holidays - test is not for wimps! Let's see what happens at this time ", - says a practicing psychologist and psychotherapist Nina Davydova.

Changing the mode of operation of family system.

In today's world a couple holding each other a couple of hours in the morning and two hours in the evening. Everything else - work, personal issues, children, parents, friends. And if they are active in everyday life at work, each busy with his business, but now they will have the energy and the attention directed at each other. This is a great opportunity to learn a spouse from a new angle, a closer look at his "shortcomings" and creatively adapt to them.

Expectations of the output

Do not always expect from joint pastime spouses negotiated in advance. Therefore, the clash of interests is inevitable. In fact it turns out that his wife was waiting for coffee in bed, and her husband faded fishing. Use this period to better recognition of each other's desires. Try to agree to share their expectations and plans before they meet with disappointment, and begin to resent each other.

Exit familiar zone.

Familiar rituals and a constant schedule - creates the illusion of stability and security. We are accustomed to live in a certain mode, so we can not just sort out what to do with so much free time. This can lead to confusion, irritate and may be ejected on the partner. Take your time, give yourself time to switch back and relax.

Conflicts over trifles

The most frequent reasons for quarrels during holidays and vacations the most banal: a careless glance at another woman, the rush at collecting things, alcohol abuse, a different look at the waste of money, the wife is going for a long time, etc. Pause, inhale, exhale, and think about it, it really worth it? Be flexible to each other, relax, and do not strain your partner. Receive with gratitude and pleasure to all that is happening. Even if all the plans are flying into the pipe.